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Uncategorized | July 22, 2015

The Breastfeeding Diaries: Stephanie from Life in the Fasts Lane

Hi, I’m Stephanie, mom to Alexandra, 10 months and I blog over at Life in the Fasts Lane.  I am truly honored to be a part of Julie’s breastfeeding diaries and have loved reading all of women’s vastly different experiences with breastfeeding their babies.  I’ve learned so much and this think is such a great series.
Alexandra Elizabeth was born on September 24th, 2014.  I knew I wanted to breastfeed since before even getting pregnant for a multitude of reasons.  I don’t think there is anything wrong with formula at all, but both my husband and I knew both the health and financial benefits of breastfeeding were enough to give it a try.  I also watched my sister in law breastfeed 4 beautiful little girls and she was an inspiration to me. My mom encouraged me to breastfeed, even though she was was not able to breastfeed me, in the 1980’s due to her high blood pressure medicine. Before Alexandra’s birth, I read as much as possible and took a breastfeeding class at the hospital where she was delivered.  I felt as prepared as possible, but in retrospect, I really learned the most through experience and listening to my baby and body’s cues.
I was induced because Alex was several days past her due date and I had a long labor (26 hours), delivered her vaginally and had an epidural. She was finally born at 10:30 pm weighing 6 pounds, 15 ounces and 20 inches long. After birth, I immediately breastfed her, and she latched fairly well.  Over the next few days at the hospital, I had nurses and very helpful lactation consultants help me with her latch and positioning.  Although I knew how she was supposed to latch and the best positions, these ladies were crucial support and gave me encouragement, reassurance and hands on help.  Like most babies, she was sleepy and we had to often wake her to eat. We did the usual things like changing her diaper to wake her gently and she ate often throughout our stay in the hospital.
Once we arrived home, I remember my having a slight soreness on my nipples, but feeling confident that I was going to be able to continue breastfeeding.  During the first few days at home, I visited the lactation clinic at our hospital to continue to get guidance and confidence that breastfeeding was going as planned.  At our lactation clinic, they weighed the baby before and after eating and were able to tell you how many ounces they were taking, which was comforting. I think every new mom worries in the beginning if your baby is getting enough, and to have an expert tell you that, was reassuring and helpful.
During the next few weeks, it seemed like Alex ate every hour, no joke. She always seemed hungry and I remember people with babies around the same age saying that their baby was on a schedule and didn’t eat as often. I sometimes questioned myself and wondered if I should make her go longer stretches between feedings, but in the end I just listened to her cues and fed her completely on demand. My husband even found some schedules online that he said I should try, but they didn’t seem to work with our hungry little girl. In his defense, he wasn’t telling me what to do, but was trying to help me regain some sanity after breastfeeding around the clock for the first few weeks. In hindsight, this was exactly right for Alex. I think this helped establish a great milk supply and although draining, her nursing so much only lasted a few weeks, and she slowly got into her own rhythm and more predictability.  Although, I do remember on Thanksgiving (when she was about 8 weeks old) her having her own “feast”, and nursing constantly that day. She was definitely going through a growth spurt at that time but my family and I joked that it was her day to “overeat” as well. The first 6-8 weeks were definitely the hardest and I encourage anyone that is breastfeeding to try and make it to that point, because then it seemed to get easier (at least in my experience).  I am also proud that she was able to thrive so much off of exclusively my breastmilk and essentially double her weight by 2 months.  Breastfeeding is truly an incredible gift we give our children.
The early days of nursing looked a lot like this.
Fast forward to 16 weeks and my maternity leave was sadly over.  I went back to teaching 7th grade full time in January.  During this time, I continued to breastfeed and pump while  at work.  Pumping at work required dedication. My schedule was breastfeed Alex when she woke up around 7, pump at work around 9:30 (my planning period), pump at lunch at 11:30, breastfeed Alex around 3:15 when I got off work, breastfeed at 5 pm and at bedtime (at this time was around 7:30). She also generally woke up at least once a night for a middle of the night feeding, but usually went right back down. On this schedule, I was able to keep up my milk supply and exclusively give her my milk. I was a little worried that my milk supply might plummet when heading back to work, because I had heard of that happening with other moms, but I responded well to the pump and was able to produce usually about the perfect amount of milk for her one day to send to her daycare the next day.  I always tried to give fresh milk and not get into my freezer stash since I know the composition of milk changes and produces different antibodies and such as is needed.  However, there are some mom’s that freeze their current milk and give freezer milk because they didn’t want to potentially waste any.  I had built up around 300-400 ounces in the freezer before my maternity leave was over and didn’t up using a lot of it before having to unfortunately throw it away.  I wish I could have donated it, but I waited too long. Also, we had some tough issues with a bottle, because although we did give one to her sporadically from 4 weeks on; we were not consistent.  Therefore, she had a period from about 3-4 months (the month before I was going back to work) where she refused the bottle (all different types and anyone who gave them to her). Luckily, she overcame that with her daycare teachers pretty quickly.
My thriving 6 month old 🙂 
I continued this schedule and around 6 months, we started giving Alex pureed foods, but she seemed to still drink just as much milk. At 9 months, we started giving her table foods, and she drank a little less. By 9 months her feeding schedule was breastfeed when she woke up around 6:30, eat a small breakfast of table foods around 7:30, breastfeed or eat 5 ounces of breastmilk in a bottle around 9:30 before her morning nap, eat a lunch of table foods around noon, breastfeed or eat 5 ounces of breastmilk around 1:00, breastfeed around 3:30, eat a dinner of table foods at 5:30, and breastfeed before bed around 6:30 or 7. I originally planned on weaning around 1 year, but now I think I want to just wean the pump around 1 year and continue breastfeeding her twice a day (morning and night) for sometime past a year.  She has hardly been sick in her first year of life and went to group child care, and I attribute that to some of the antibodies I am able to pass on to her. But I’m not sure what the future will hold and if she will even want to still breastfeed.  She has showed no signs of stopping yet, but only time will tell.
Finally, I wanted to discuss my experience with a couple random things that I always wondered about and loved scouring the internet to find out more about: breastfeeding and exercise, breastfeeding and weight loss and maintaining a good supply. I started exercising around 6 weeks after Alex was born. I ran around 12 miles a week and took Pure Barre maybe twice per week. In no way did either of those activities negatively affect my milk supply. Actually, I found the opposite. After running especially, I almost seemed to make MORE milk. Some people may think this is a lot of exercise and others may think this is minimal. However, this was a “moderate” amount of exercise for me and I did exercise throughout my pregnancy and have really exercised consistently since high school (12 + years), so my body is used to it. I ran until my third trimester and did Pure Barre until a week before I was due.  I continued this workout schedule of 12-15 miles a week and a few Pure Barre classes until around 8 months when I really started getting more consistent with my running and increased my mileage to around 30 miles a week to train for a half marathon. Still, my milk supply was not affected. I think the main thing for me was to make sure that I was drinking a TON (like 120+ ounces a day) of water and eating a good amount of healthy foods and fats. I also feel like the old wives tale about oatmeal is definitely true. I LOVE oatmeal and ate it almost everyday and I feel like it really did help my milk supply. As far as weight loss, I think nursing definitely helped me lose a lot of the weight quickly post delivery. I gained 30 pounds and had lost all but 10 pounds by a few weeks post birth. I hung onto an extra 5-8 pounds until around 8 months. Finally at this time, I was at my pre-pregnancy weight I know some women get really skinny when nursing and some women tend to hold onto a few pounds and I was somewhere in the middle. Working out made me more hungry, so I’m not sure if it was the main factor in my weight loss, but it did provide endorphins and a little bit of sanity and “me time”.  The important thing is to listen to your body, be kind to yourself (you made a LIFE), and take it slowly.  Crash dieting is horrible for your body, especially when nursing, so be patient with yourself and know that you can get your body back, even if it does take some time.
9. 5 months
Breastfeeding has been such a positive experience for me, but it has been HARD WORK and I do not take it for granted. I am very grateful for the support I have been given and the ability I have had to breastfeed my daughter.  I will hopefully breastfeed potential future children as well and am so thankful to share my experience with all of you!
Be sure to catch up with the rest of the Breastfeeding Diaries at the top of my navigation bar.


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Comments

  1. bev says

    July 23, 2015 at 2:27 am

    You've had a wonderful experience with breastfeeding and it is nice of you to share your story. Mothers encouraging mothers is the best!

  2. adelia says

    July 28, 2015 at 8:17 pm

    Her baby funny

  3. celana hernia says

    July 28, 2015 at 8:21 pm

    so hopefully a happy family

Uncategorized | February 26, 2014

The Breastfeeding Diaries: Stephanie from Stephenomenal Life

Hey everybody! My name is Stephanie and I blog over at stephenomenallife. I’m a wife to my high school sweet heart, Clint, and mama to our sweet son, Reuben. 

Julie started The Breastfeeding Diaries just a few weeks before Reuben was born and her first few posts were invaluable to me in the beginning so I’m happy to be able to share with you and hope you find my store encouraging! 


I was adamant about breastfeeding from the day I found out I was pregnant. My best friend had had a baby a few months before I got pregnant and I learned all about the benefits and I knew I wanted them for my baby. That’s about as far as I got in thinking about it though. I figured my son would latch on the second after I pushed him out after a wonderful, peaceful, natural labor and we’d just figure it out as we went along… I was totally wrong.

When the time came, my birth plan went out the window. You can read more about my birth story here, but the short story is that I had to have a c-section at 37 weeks due to HELLP syndrome. Afterwards,  it was a major uphill battle to get any sort of milk to come in. I was on magnesium sulfate for 24 hours and labetalol 3 times a day to try and get my blood pressure down. They also had me taking percocet every 4 hours for pain. Add to those the fact I had a c-section 3 weeks early and you’ve got one big anti-milk mess.

I was nursing Reuben ever 3-4 hours, just like I was supposed to, but he was taking forever to nurse and in a few days, he’d lost close to a pound. The doctors were concerned and by the time we left the hospital, I was nursing him for 20 minutes, pumping for 30 minutes after that, feeding him what I’d pumped and supplementing with formula to make up the difference, all without really knowing why or having any sort of cut off date. We went in for a weight check and he’d gained weight, but I didn’t know which part of everything was working, so I kept doing all three.

It. Was. Exhausting.


  I dreaded every single feeding. I’d cry when it got dark outside because I knew I couldn’t just go to sleep like I wanted and so desperately needed to. I’d have to wake up every 3 hours for at least an hour, just to feed Reuben. Cracked and bleeding nipples, blood blisters, and plain frustration led me to exclusively pump for a few days because nursing was so painful and Reuben was getting frustrated with my low supply. It all came to a head when he was 2 weeks old and screaming at my boob after eating for 1.5 hours straight. I set him on the bed and told my husband I didn’t want to feed him anymore and burst out in hysterical crying. (Hormones are nuts, y’all!)

It was then that I realized I needed real help, that I couldn’t go on the way I had been because it was effecting my bond with my sweet son. I wanted to quit, but just couldn’t bring myself to do it. I’m super stubborn and a major cheapskate so I didn’t want to waste the $300 I’d spent on a brand new pump!

The next day I face-timed with my best friend who’s a breastfeeding champ and she fixed his latch and watched him eat, giving me tips along the way. I decided that day he wouldn’t get another drop of formula, no matter what. I texted her after every single feeding for a couple days. “He ate x minutes off the right and x on the left. Is that ok?” And one time I called her, freaking out about him not wanting to eat, and when she asked what was wrong I said, “He’s just laying there, asleep. He’s perfectly content!” And she was so kind to not point out how straight up crazy I was acting and stuck it in the back of her mind to help me laugh about it later, haha!



Between her and my husbands encouragement, we made it through his 8-freaking-day-long two week growth spurt and he hasn’t had a sip of formula since. I kept pumping after his early morning feeding to build up a freezer supply, and ended up with more than I could ever use and got to donate it to another mama! I was terrified my supply would tank or that he’d prefer a bottle (since he liked them so much more than me at first) once I went back to work. But thankfully he’d rather have it straight from the tap and my supply actually increased when I started feeding him on demand at home. Pumping twice a day at work has been a MAJOR pain and I will do a happy dance when I can finally put my trusty pump away, but I’m very thankful it hasn’t been a challenge. He always has enough milk to drink.

Reuben just turned one a few weeks ago and we’re still going strong. I’ve nursed him just about anywhere and everywhere you could. It started out very private and covered in the corner, bathroom, or the backseat of my car, but I’ve given up on that. Definitely still discreet and modest, but I’ve finally gotten over worrying what people are thinking about me. I’m going to take care of my baby’s needs, wherever we are. Nursing is completely different now than it was a first. He can be done in five minutes, only does it a few times a day, and we can have fun and play silly games while he nurses. Much different than the original, boring 45 minutes it would take 8-10 times a day in the beginning!


I have no game plan for totally weaning him because I don’t see the immediate need to. Morning, naps, and nighttime are about where he’s at now. It’s SO easy now, incredible bonding time (I mean seriously, is there anything sweeter than a nursing babe playing with your hair?), and still majorly benefits both of us health-wise.


Ladies, you can do it! Educate yourselves. Stick up for yourselves in the hospital. Find someone to be your cheerleader, whether it’s your husband, a lactation consultant, or just a friend who’s been there and knows the challenge it is. If it’s something you really want to do, don’t give up! It gets SO much easier and is 110% worth sticking with it!

 Want to share your experience with breastfeeding? Email me at thegirlintheredshoes @gmail. And be sure to catch up with the entire Breastfeeding Diaries series at the top of my navigation bar.



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Comments

  1. Ariane says

    February 26, 2014 at 3:28 pm

    I enjoyed this one a lot. How awesome of your friend to face time and help with latch issues! It's so important to have support. I feel the same way about the convenience of nursing with naps, bedtime, etc. and feeling no need to wean (mine is 21 months and still going). Your counter drying photo looked just like mine. I don't miss it though! Great post, thanks for sharing!

  2. Ali Damron says

    February 26, 2014 at 4:26 pm

    That's awesome that Rueben just turned one and you're still going. My little one is turning one next week and we have no plans on weaning yet either. I have to say I remember those nights when it would get dark and I'd be jealous of everyone that just got to go to bed. To be honest, my son still has never slept through the night – not even close, so sometimes I still have that envy. I know it will end someday and I'll be glad I was there for him.

  3. Julia Goolia says

    February 27, 2014 at 2:43 am

    Such an awesome story after a rough start. And I LOVE the name Rueben. A favorite of mine forever!! Great job!

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