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Uncategorized | May 8, 2013

The Breastfeeding Diaries: Leah from L + K + E

This week’s guest post is from one of my very first “blog” friends, Leah. This girl has been such a support to me over the last few years and I am so grateful for her friendship! It seems like her 2 year old daughter was born yesterday…I still remember getting the labor email updates from her husband, Kyle, and being so excited for sweet Emery to be born!

Hey everyone! My name is Leah and I am a 29 year old stay-at-home mommy to Emery, my 2 year old! I am so honored that Julie asked me to submit a guest post for her breastfeeding diaries series, and I hope that my experience with Emery will be an encouragement to one of you. I breastfed for around 13 months, and am still so proud of myself for following through with the commitment I made to do it for Emery’s entire first year. Without a doubt, it’s a huge sacrifice that any mother can make. Knowing that I provided my child with everything she needed to survive is a badge I wear proudly.

I grew up in a pro-breastfeeding family. Having that support system for encouragement, questions, and a place to vent frustrations, made all the difference for me. My mother breastfed all 3 of her children, and my sister managed to exclusively breastfeed BOTH sets of her boy/girl twins (yes, you read that right…she had 2 sets of twins!) So truly, I had no excuse! My husband, Kyle, was so supportive of my decision to breastfeed, and was truly my biggest advocate during the whole year.
I was so grateful that Emery latched on immediately after birth. Even the lactation consultant in the hospital commented, “Emery needs to teach the other babies down the hall how to nurse so well”. So clearly, that was easy for us! The hospital helped us get on a great routine with Emery, and basically from then on Emery was on a three-hour feeding schedule. We followed the book “On Becoming Baby Wise” very closely, and for us having a set schedule on feeding/sleeping worked like a charm. By one month old, Emery was going to sleep at 9 pm, waking up at 5:30 am to eat, and then going back to sleep till 9 am (which is when we would officially start our day). Yeah for sleep!

The sweet moments that Emery and I shared when she was nursing are memories I’ll never forget. Whether it was how she held onto my fingers so tightly, her looking into my eyes the whole time, or the adorable cooing noises she would make while eating… I loved them all! It’s truly a bond that no one else had with Emery and I feel so blessed that I was able to share that with her.
I had no idea how much I would worry about the amount of milk I was producing! Since I only had to go into work one day a week (I worked full time from home 4 days a week for Emery’s entire first year!), that was truly the only time I would pump and find out how much milk Emery was eating. After a couple months of seeing Emery grow and develop right on track, I gained confidence that my body was producing the perfect amount that she needed.

I was so prepared for breastfeeding to be harder than it was. Like Julie, I had heard some pretty terrible horror stories. Even though Emery was a great eater from the start, that doesn’t mean we didn’t face challenges along the way. The first month we had such a hard time keeping Emery awake long enough to eat! After trying tips like tickling, cold washcloth on her head, stripping down her clothes, we found that all those techniques just made her more mad than hungry! The trick that worked best for us was just changing the type of hold I had her in. Instead of the cradle hold, changing to the football hold made all the difference, as she was no longer lying right up against my warm tummy.
My only other big breastfeeding challenge was when Emery was about 2 months old. After refusing to nurse longer than a minute per side for a couple days, she was diagnosed with acid reflux. I remember trying to feed her any way that I could… bra and shirt completely off, laying above her on the bed basically dangling my breast in her face, just to see if that position would make her eat. It was horrible. I was unhappy and so was she. The next day I brought her to the pediatrician and with one look down her super red throat he put her on medicine. She had always spit up a lot, but I never noticed how much pain she was in from the spit up. After that we were smooth sailing!

One thing that surprised both Kyle and I was the amount of time that nursing can take! At the beginning I remember setting the alarm on my phone to make Emery switch sides after 20 minutes. As she got older, that time decreased, but between changing her diaper, feeding, and burping, we were hovering right at an hour!

We were living in Georgia at the time, and making the 7-hour trip back home to North Carolina seemed a little daunting. Since bottle-feeding was faster for us than nursing, we would make a stop and have Kyle feed her the bottle, while I was pumping. Timing is everything during this process; having to make sure your prepared bottle is at room temperature, etc. This plan worked wonders for us!
If you would like to read any more about our first year with Emery, I have it all documented here.  Thank you for letting me share a little bit of my experience with you all!
Make sure you catch up with the rest of the breastfeeding diaries series at the top of my navigation bar!


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Comments

  1. leah says

    May 8, 2013 at 3:05 pm

    Thanks so much, Julie, for allowing my story to be part of your bf series! Really grateful for our friendship, too!

  2. Jen says

    May 8, 2013 at 8:20 pm

    It does seem like yesterday that sweet Emery was born! I loved watching and learning from Leah. She is a great mommy and I am so glad she shared her story!

  3. Tara says

    May 9, 2013 at 1:34 am

    Loved hearing your recap of your breastfeeding experience with Emery, Leah! You are a great Mama and Emery was blessed to receive her Mama's milk for that whole first year, even despite you having to pump/work! So proud of you, Sis!

Uncategorized | March 13, 2013

The Breastfeeding Diaries: Leah from Everyday Love

Today I’m excited to welcome Leah from Everyday Love. Not only does she have a super cute shop of personalized items for babies (check out my amazing giveaway here) she’s also a new mama and breastfeeding champ!

 I’m an approaching thirty mama who loves to bake, craft and make to-do lists. Being a mom has been a dream for as long as I could remember. I had baby fever as soon as the husband and I were back from our honeymoon. Unfortunately, my journey to motherhood wasn’t one I imagined. Despite what we went through, I wouldn’t trade it in for anything in the world because it let us to Avery Grace, born on August 10th. Now, at six months old, she is such a sweet baby who loves to smile. I am so very blessed to be her mama and am grateful for everyday with her.

Breastfeeding isn’t something I gave much thought to at the beginning of my pregnancy. I heard it was best for baby. My best friends all breastfed their babies for at least six months. I also read this informative article
which helped me fully understand the benefits of breastfeeding. Going into it, I had no idea how hard it would be but I was determined to stick it out. Now, six months later I’m so glad I did.
Avery wakes up between 7 and 8 in the morning. She eats every 3-4 hours during the day. I’ve done baby led feeding from the beginning. I can tell when she’s hungry, but don’t let her go more than 4 hours during the day. I pump once a day, an hour or so after her first feeding. I’ve done this almost every day since she was born in order to build up my supply. I now have a freezer full of milk. I’m very “mother bear” about my supply. It’s like gold to me. I try not to dive into it unless I absolutely have to. I’m saving it for some vacations we have this summer and our date nights once a month. We also recently started feeding Avery cereal at 6 months and I’ve been using the milk from my extra pumping session to make it.

When we go out, I just bring my nursing cover. I usually find a private place to nurse if we’re out and about. I’ve fed in dressing rooms and in the car more times than I can count!

Not only is it a wonderful feeling to see my baby thrive and grow on what I’ve been able to give her, it’s a wonderful bonding time. When Avery was little, I would just stare at her while she ate. Wondering what I did to deserve such a precious girl. Thinking about her life and the amazing things I know she’ll do. As she became more alert, she would hold my hands or my shirt while she ate. It melted my heart every time. Now, she continuously smacks and grabs at my face every time she eats. She’s definitely a wild one! Nonetheless, it is still a time I look forward to each day.

I don’t produce a lot of milk. This has also been frustrating for me. When I pump each day, I only get about 2-3 ounces total (after 20-30 minutes of pumping). I would hear friends talk about how they are overflowing and have bottles for days. For me, it takes me 2 days of pumped milk to freeze enough for a bottle.

There are a few hurdles I had to overcome when it came to breastfeeding.
The first one was within the first week of Avery’s life. She did well at the hospital with latching, but the moment my milk came in, that changed. She was crying all the time. Nursing was an absolute nightmare. I would honestly cry every time she would try to latch on. We even took her to the doctor after hours because it was so bad. They said she had Colic. On her 5th day of life, I decided to pump a bottle. I knew she needed to eat. From the minute she had the bottle, she was a different baby. She slept longer and was much happier (colic? Ha!). I called the lactation consultant in tears over giving her a bottle. I was afraid she would not be able to breastfeed afterwards and decided that if I had to pump for a year I would. The consultant told me to give it 48 hours for my supply to even out. So for 48 hours I pumped. I would try to nurse at every feeding for a few minutes and then I gave her the bottle immediately after to make sure she was full. After 48 hours of bottles, I tried to breastfeed again for an entire feeding. She latched immediately and hasn’t had any problems since. I am so glad I made that phone call!

Next, we discovered that Avery had a milk protein allergy. We found out when she was 3 months old. Right then and there I had to make a decision. If I was going to continue breastfeeding, I would have to eliminate dairy from my diet. If not, she would have to go on a special (and expensive) formula. I decided that the best thing for her would be for me to continue and eliminate the dairy. I had to remember, it’s not about me anymore. I could go without my favorite chocolate and coffee creamer for a year because it was the best thing for her. So I did. At first it was hard, but now it’s a way of life. She should grow out of the allergy by one year according to her doctors.
Tips for new moms:
Don’t put lots of pressure on yourself.

Find a support system. Whether it’s friends or a lactation consultant. I needed both!

I was the mom that said I would NOT give my child a paci or bottle within the first month of life. I gave her BOTH in the first week. Our doctor gave us the okay for both. She didn’t get nipple/ bottle confusion. With this I would say, let go of expectations. You and your baby will figure it out together. Just take it day by day, feeding by feeding.
One of my best friends told me to just give it a month. It’s what her sister told her when she called her crying wanting to stop. After that one month mark, it gets easier. It’s worth it.
For more information check out a post  I wrote while back,
all about breastfeeding and my must haves.
One thing I was looking forward to with breastfeeding was dropping the weight. Watching it FALL OFF as many would say. Well let me tell you, that is NOT the case for everyone. I watched….and watched….and waited and nothing was falling. So I turned to Google (where else would I go?) and noticed that this is very common. Some women will keep weight on until they are finished breastfeeding. Fabulous, just fabulous!


Thanks Leah! We appreciate your honesty!

Are you a mama of multiples? I’m looking for someone to share their story of how they breastfed twins or triplets….please send me an email if you would like to guest post! (located at the top under “contact”) 


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Comments

  1. Leah says

    March 13, 2013 at 2:55 pm

    Thanks so much for having me Julie!

  2. Leslie says

    March 13, 2013 at 3:19 pm

    I love all of these breastfeeding posts…they are so helpful and encouraging 🙂 Makes me excited to start once my baby boys is born in May!! =)

  3. Jenny says

    March 13, 2013 at 4:08 pm

    Thanks so much for sharing your story! Leah I feel you so much on the pumping struggles! I guard my stash as if it were worth a million dollars! Keep pumping – it's worth it! 🙂

  4. Mrs. S says

    March 13, 2013 at 5:54 pm

    That's great that you have such a stash, Leah. I lost mine to the dairy allergy and I'm trying to build it back up. Talk about being upset pumping is hard work!

  5. Carolyn says

    March 13, 2013 at 6:59 pm

    I'm seriously so obsessed with this series!!

  6. Rebecca @ the lil house that could says

    March 19, 2013 at 1:56 pm

    I love this series so much. I don't have twins, but if you need contributors I'm always willing to share! I think everyone has a unique story and once I made it through, I feel like I should help others 🙂

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