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Uncategorized | March 25, 2015

The Breastfeeding Diaries: Katie from For Lauren and Lauren




Hi there!  I’m Katie and I blog at for Lauren and Lauren, and am mom to 20 month old Addilyn.  I’m excited to share on Julie’s blog, as I have loved reading everyone’s stories.  It’s wonderful when you can find someone who can relate to you, especially when it comes to such a personal and emotional thing as motherhood.  But it’s also amazing to see how every mom and baby are so different, yet we’re all doing what is best for our babies and families.  







Before Addilyn was born I honestly didn’t have a whole lot of set plans on how I would parent. I knew we’d love our baby like crazy and do our best to teach her the important things like to love God and love others, but I honestly didn’t know how we’d handle all the other things.  Like how our routines would work, how sleep would (or wouldn’t!) happen, or when I’d be ready to leave her for long periods of time.  I did, however plan on breastfeeding, although I knew very little what to expect or how long I would do it.  







My labor was really rough, and I had always imagined the doctor putting Addilyn on my chest right away, then nursing her soon after.  After a crazy long labor, she came out and wasn’t breathing, so within minutes the room was filled with extra doctors and I didn’t get to see her for the first 30 minutes.  Thankfully after that she was put on my chest and latched on right away.  I still think it is so amazing that babies know exactly what to do.  I felt incredibly out of it after she was born and it all just felt like such a blur.  I think my labor was a little traumatizing to me and I just felt so exhausted and overwhelmed.  I so badly wish I could go back to those first moments with her.  


















The next morning Addilyn tested positive for jaundice and she was put under the lights in the NICU.  I was devastated.  Looking back I know there are so many worse things that could happen, but I felt so sad that I couldn’t hold her and that we couldn’t go home right away.  I was allowed to take her out to nurse, but my milk wasn’t coming in and she seemed hungry and frustrated and it was so far from easy and relaxing.  Because of her jaundice they wanted her drinking to flush out her system so they wanted to give her formula.  I was so worried that if they did she wouldn’t want to nurse and we wouldn’t have that bonding, especially since she was under the lights most of the time.  The lactation consultants at the hospital were amazing.  They put a little tube into the formula bottle then put the other end near my nipple so Addilyn thought she was nursing, but was getting formula.  They only had to do this a few times until the next day when my milk finally came in.  Of course while I was yet again crying to the lactation consultant that I was worried something was wrong.  Pregnancy and post pregnancy hormones are crazy, right?! So many tears. 







Addilyn had to stay two extra nights in the hospital and we had to go home without her, which was so hard,  Again, I know moms have to go through so much worse and I’m grateful our time there was so short.  But it was hard to drive home without her.  I had no idea how painful the first stages of nursing would be.  The first few nights (especially the ones when she was in the NICU) I was incredibly uncomfortable.  I pumped a handful of times and had a ton of milk right away.  Which was great because they were able to give her bottles overnight, and I started with extra milk.  Quickly I learned that if anything I had an oversupply of milk.  I always felt “full” and had no problem pumping 4 ounces in between feedings.  I didn’t pump all too often as I was staying home with Addilyn and if I left I did right after nursing her.  She would take a bottle, but never the whole thing and sometimes she wouldn’t drink it at all.  We weren’t super consistent with giving them to her and it really was hit or miss if she would take it.







I honestly can’t remember the first few weeks in terms of nursing, except that you do it all the time.   I’d sit on the couch for hours and I look back and feel so thankful for all those hours.  I had an awful recovery and I don’t know how I would have managed taking care of other kids or other responsibilities.  It wasn’t until three months that I started thinking more about a schedule in terms of feeding.  Before that I’d nurse when she’d cry, nurse her to sleep,and hold her for all of her naps. After the first month and a half of very little sleep, Addilyn would usually only wake up once around two or three, eat and sleep till early morning, nurse again and sleep another hour or so.  I felt so lucky.  She seemed like a great eater, was gaining weight great and nursing was pretty easy.  Still time consuming, but I was home with her all the time and it felt easy.  Again, I wish I could go back to that time for even just a day.  I miss her tiny newborn self and those hours of laying together.  
















Around three months I started working on a more eat, play, sleep schedule to help with her napping on her own.  Especially after we hit the dreaded four month sleep regression.  She went from waking up once to waking up every hour to hour and a half.  I felt so tired and didn’t want to let her cry so I would just nurse her every time.  It was exhausting.  Looking back I don’t even know how hard I tried to do something other than nurse her when she woke up.  It felt like the easiest and quickest solution for us both to get back to sleep! Finally around six months I felt like I was barely sleeping and we dealt with some tears from both of us, and went down to two feedings a night which sadly felt heavenly! 







Around nine months Addilyn, who had been in the 90th percentile for height and weight until this point, dropped to the 40th and then to the 20th at her next appointment.  She wasn’t too interested in baby food and I felt like I was constantly pushing her to nurse or eat so that she’d gain weight.  She was always an active baby and got easily distracted.  She was still waking up twice at night and although still anxiously awaiting full nights of sleep, I felt like at least she was getting in extra calories.  Our pediatrician had us go through a ton of scary tests, that looking back seem so unnecessary, but she had us worried something was wrong as to why she wasn’t gaining weight.  She suggested once or twice trying formula, but I was so sure that I had an oversupply of milk and felt like that wasn’t the issue.  







Long story short, we determined Addilyn most likely has had acid reflux her whole life. We ended up switching pediatricians as I felt like this is something she should have caught early on, and could have spared us from a lot of stress and a whole lot of money for the tests we went through.  Again, looking back I feel like there were plenty of signs, but I had no idea as a first time mom.  She spit up all the time, slept way better prompt up, was a pretty awful sleeper most of her life and wasn’t gaining weight.  I know so many of those are common newborn and baby symptoms so I had no idea.  But within a month of being put on medicine she gained over a pound and a half and we were so relieved. 










Before Addilyn was born I assumed I would nurse her until a year and then quit sometime around there.  I did not expect it to be a battle or to have mixed feelings about it.  It’s ironic to me because when Addilyn was a baby she was never a comfort nurser.  I tried to nurse her when she would get her shots or would be crying for something else and it would make her more upset.  But as she passed 14 months, nursing became a huge source of comfort.  She went from never initiating nursing to asking and saying “nurse” all the time.  We were nursing when she woke up, before bedtime, twice during the night and then a few times during the day.  





Around 17 months I felt exhausted from nursing her twice a night and was ready to be done and ready to get a full night’s sleep!  I started to feel frustrated with nursing as it felt like her only source to sleep during the night and I thought in order to cut that out, we’d have to be done altogether.  I was dreading cutting out those feedings and was sure it would be hours of tears, as we’ve already had our share of bedtime and sleep battles with plenty of tears.  I was relieved that after a few weeks she finally started sleeping through the night. With not too many tears and a whole lot of singing and rocking, she stopped asking to nurse when she woke up at night. A few weeks later she stopped waking up during the night, and now most nights now she sleeps all night and I can’t tell you how happy it makes me.  














I thought night weaning would be the hardest and the others would eventually fade out, but here I am, still nursing my 20 month old morning, night and usually one or two times during the day.  And if it were up to her I’d probably be nursing many more times a day.  I feel ready to be done, yet the thought of being done makes me sad too.  We struggled with infertility for a few years before we were given Addilyn and I don’t know if I’ll ever get to breastfeed a baby again.  I think the idea of her being done makes me sad that this stage is over.  Yet I am so ready to completely have my body back and the freedom that comes with that.  It’s crazy to me how many emotions have come with breastfeeding.  





I don’t know how we’ll approach weaning.  She does completely fine when I’m not around or when my husband puts her to bed, but will cry and say “mama, nurse please?” (which just about breaks my heart at the thought of saying no) if I try to not nurse her before we read our stories and she goes to bed.  I would love it if it would just happen on it’s own, but right now she doesn’t show any signs of weaning.  I don’t want it to be too hard on either of us, so right now I’m just waiting it out until I have a better plan, and enjoying the extra months of bonding time I have with her.  If you’ve been through the weaning process with a 20 month old or close to it please share!







If I’ve learned one thing about motherhood it’s that you have no idea what it’s going to be like until you experience it.  You can’t imagine how much love you’ll have for your baby, and you have no idea how you’ll navigate each stage, breastfeeding being one of them.  And that every mom and every baby is different and you just do what is best for you and your baby.  I get nervous thinking about how hard weaning will be on Addilyn, but I know I need to do what is best for me too, and that we’ll work through it together whenever that time comes.  And with getting through hard things, better things come.  And with letting go and moving past wonderful stages, there are more wonderful stages to look forward too.  





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  1. Laura Marie Keenan says

    March 25, 2015 at 2:32 pm

    What a beautiful story! I night weaned my son at 24 months and then he fully weaned just a couple months after that. It went flawlessly because I waited until he was ready! Good luck as you continue your journey!

Uncategorized | August 6, 2014

The Breastfeeding Diaries: Katie from Yellow Mango Life

Hi there! I’m Katie and I blog over at Yellow Mango Life.  I live in Omaha, NE with my husband and our two and a half year old son, Cruz. I work in casino marketing and everything outside of that is fair game to make it on the pages of my ol’ blog, specifically our life, our favorite things, little man clothes and anything else that I think will keep your attention.

So I thought I would take a different route on Julie’s so very popular Breastfeeding Diaries.
You see, I didn’t breastfeed.
Wait a sec. Isn’t this a series dedicated to breastfeeding ups and downs, good and bad, wins and losses, you might ask?
And you would be right. It is.
But I also thought it would be interesting to get another perspective. From a mama just like all of you, who chose not to breastfeed.

Let me start off by saying I give tons of props to all of you pretty ladies for making that decision to experience what I can only imagine to be one of the most rewarding, and at times, very difficult parts of raising a child. TONS of props. I think it’s a very beautiful thing.
But breastfeeding wasn’t for me.
I realize that sounds like a selfish statement. And sometimes I feel extremely selfish for not giving it a try. But when I was pregnant and thought about what role breastfeeding would play in our lives, I just didn’t see it working.
You see, I work a lot of hours. (Please know, I realize that many of you do as well.)  I also worked quite a bit during my leave and I had to go back to work after 8 weeks. Not only that but my work week is different from a lot of people’s in that my place of work never sleeps. We are a 24/7 business and I work my hours “at work” but more often than not, I work every night from home as well. I couldn’t figure out where I would fit in pumping regularly when I was always on conference calls, being called to the floor and in meetings. Very rarely do I take a lunch break that doesn’t involve a working lunch/meeting.
With my hours and working out of the home, when at the time my husband wasn’t, formula feeding allowed him to be able to help with the feedings, particularly middle of the night, so I could get a decent night’s sleep when I went back to work.
Not only that, but I had talked with our pediatrician quite a bit about this as well. She was a working mom of new twins who had breastfed, but reassured me that there was formula that had all of the vitamins and nutrients that our little guy needed and that formula-feeding was a completely safe alternative. I had also done quite a bit of research on the matter.
Fortunately Cruz did extremely well on formula.
He had no weight issues, rarely did he spit up after feedings and sucked down his formula like you wouldn’t believe.
And we have ourselves an amazingly smart, funny, happy little man on our hands.

Do I regret not trying? 
Sometimes.
Was I concerned I would lose the mother-baby bond that is a part breastfeeding?
Yes, I did initially – but having gone through it I no longer feel I missed out on it and have an amazing relationship with our guy.
Did I worry – what if it’s because I didn’t breastfeed? – every time something health-wise happened to my kiddo?
You betcha. It’s always on my mind. I think that is just another part of mommy guilt that we all feel at any given time while navigating this craziness that is being a mama.
Do I wonder – somewhat vainly – if the baby weight would’ve come off easier had I breastfed? (Because it definitely didn’t – remember here & here)
Absolutely.
Do I regret my decision?
Not at all. In the end the most important thing you can do for your baby is love them and be there for them – and that includes feeding them the way that you choose.

Thank you Julie for letting me share our version on your Breastfeeding Diaries! xo
Check out Cruz’s birth story here.
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  1. Karli | September F A R M says

    August 6, 2014 at 12:58 pm

    love katie and her blog. one of my faves for sure. i just wish she didn't work so much so she could blog more. and THANK YOU, julie, for sharing another perspective to the breastfeeding bit. it's so important to be learn as much as we can about all avenues.

  2. Alycia says

    August 6, 2014 at 1:48 pm

    such a great reminder, that no matter what you choose, you are choosing it for your child and what you think is best. I love hearing everyones different journeys and perspectives!!!

  3. Dianne Fuchser says

    August 6, 2014 at 1:58 pm

    I'm a big fan of Katie's too……I'm her mom! Also the mother of 5 and I didn't breast feed. In the 70's it wasn't the thing to do and I also worked full time. But I have to say, I had five beautiful, healthy babies with no allergies or medical conditions. I think breast feeding is a choice we make and should not feel guilty if you choose not to do it.
    Keep up the blogging ladies, what a great way to share!

  4. Laurie Olsen says

    August 6, 2014 at 2:42 pm

    It's hard not to beat yourself up. No matter what you choose. No one knows what's best for you besides you. And hey! You got Katie to blog! I applaud you! I have missed her. 😉

  5. Jill @ You Me and Capri says

    August 6, 2014 at 3:12 pm

    Yay, Katie!! I love your story and perspective on it all. I think this is such a great story for other mama's. I felt an enormous amount of pressure to breastfeed (from society, doctors, other moms) and suffered through the challenges that came with that. But, I definitely agree it's a personal choice and I applaud you for being brave enough to choose what was best for you and your little fam. You're right, Cruz is not lacking at all in the love department.. and that's all that matters! =)

  6. Zoe {The Latina Lens} says

    August 6, 2014 at 3:59 pm

    Loved getting a different perspective. Us Mom's need to stick together and not beat each other up for what we did or didn't do. Your little man is so cute, Katie!

  7. Jenny Ayers says

    August 6, 2014 at 6:06 pm

    I didn't breastfeed either. I was very happy with my decision. My second son is on the way and I don't plan on breastfeeding this time either. It's not for everyone. I'm glad there is someone else that felt the same way.

  8. Kary Glawe says

    August 6, 2014 at 6:33 pm

    I loved that this story was included in a "breastfeeding" series. What a gorgeous family!

  9. Lexy says

    August 6, 2014 at 6:52 pm

    Thank you for sharing this Katie! And Julie, I just love that you included this in the breastfeeding diaries. Every mom has a unique and important story!!

  10. Chelsea says

    August 6, 2014 at 6:59 pm

    Thanks for sharing Katie and Julie! I love your blog Katie and am so happy that you shared another perspective!!!

  11. Jessica says

    August 6, 2014 at 8:13 pm

    Your family is beautiful, Katie!:) Definitely agree that breastfeeding is not for everyone, and am glad that Julie chose to share this point of view on her series! It's important for all moms to know that making the best decisions for their babies is the most important thing – whether that means breastfeeding or formula feeding.

    As a side note, I too had to return to work very quickly after having my son – after just 7 weeks of leave. In my opinion, the lack of good maternity leave options for many women here in the US is a topic that should be addressed. It's terrible!!!

  12. Elizabeth {Chasin' Mason} says

    August 6, 2014 at 11:37 pm

    I love that this story was included in the breastfeeding diaries! A working mama myself, I had the same fears. While I didn't have quite the crazy schedule that she does, I did experience some of the same thoughts. I did try to breastfeed but it didn't work out for us… and that's ok. It doesn't for everyone for various reasons. We are all mamas doing the best we can for our kids. And we are all doing GREAT!

  13. Anonymous says

    August 7, 2014 at 3:36 pm

    I chose to formula feed and it was the best decision. I didn't have to stress, it was just so easy for us. Happy Mommy = happy baby! I fully plan on formula feeding my next one as well. Thanks for sharing!

  14. Nikki T says

    August 8, 2014 at 1:51 am

    I love this! I didn't choose to formula feed my son, it was chosen for me and I felt the guilt big time! I am now one week in with my daughter and am able to breast feed this time {if all goes well}. I think it is great to see both sides because both have their pro's and con's, and I love my kids the same and that is what really matters.

  15. Katie @ yellowmangolife.blogspot.com says

    August 8, 2014 at 2:32 pm

    Julie – thank you so much for letting me share my side! Love having the chance to explain why some mamas don't breastfeed. Seriously you are the best!

  16. Carolyn says

    August 12, 2014 at 8:41 pm

    Katie – thanks for sharing your story! This is the perfect example of how us moms should be – supportive no matter the decision! As long as baby/mom/dad are healthy, happy and fine with their decision… that's perfect! No more mom judging!!!

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