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Uncategorized | April 22, 2015

The Breastfeeding Diaries: Ashley from The Ramblin’ Rooster

Hey y’all, I’m Ashley!
Wife to my best friend, Jared
Mama to our precious, crazy baby boy, Anderson.
I started my blog – The Ramblin’ Rooster – back before Anderson was born. In the beginning, it was an outlet for me to just write. Once we found out we were pregnant, it became a place to document all of the happenings and changes we were going through as our family grew. Once we were blessed with the birth of our little bundle, life seemed to fast forward into warp speed and I became quite the lazy blogger! I’m excited to share my (our) breastfeeding story with you today!
I breastfed Anderson from the day he was born until his 6-month birthday. I did not breastfeed exclusively; some days it was all breast, some days I supplemented with formula. I was fortunate enough, due to unplanned events, to have a 5-month maternity leave from work. Pumping never really worked for me, and when I went back to work I continued to try without much success. Our routine became something like this: I would breastfeed him first thing in the morning, he would drink 6-8oz of formula every 3-4 hours throughout the day, I would breastfeed him when I got home from work and again before he went down to bed for the night, sleep, wake up, repeat. The day he turned 6 months old was a Saturday. We woke up and sat down on the couch just like every other day, but he would not latch on. He screamed and cried every time I tried to pull him to me. After that morning we were finished, and I was okay with that. He seemed okay with that too, and life just continued to keep on going.
Before Anderson arrived, I always thought that I would be the Superwoman of breastfeeding and of motherhood in general. Looking back now I think, what the heck does that even mean? Motherhood is hard, breastfeeding or not. It’s hard and it changes you. It weights on you and it lifts you up. It pushes you to your limits and then enables you to watch yourself exceed them all at the same time. My viewpoint has now changed to this: be the best you can be for your baby, yourself and your family. If that means you breastfeed, do it! If that means you mix up formula in a bottle for every single feeding, shake what your mama gave ya! What’s important is that your baby is growing and getting chunky little legs and arms and he’s getting it from you! When I think back about those six months, the most rewarding part of the whole process to me was seeing my little man pack on pounds and grow bigger and bigger with every doctor’s appointment. A lot of those pounds came from me and some of them did not. He was healthy and growing and there was noting more rewarding to me. Every time he was laid on a scale and the number was higher than the time before, it made all of the sleepless nights and pain and tears worth it
With all of the good we experienced, there were a few frustrating things that I wished someone had told me about before Anderson was born. Maybe I just didn’t know the right places to look for this kind of information, but it seemed to me that as soon as I aired a few frustrations everyone else shared them as well. I know that breastfeeding is beautiful, but guess what…it can also have some ugly moments. 
If you’re a new or expecting mom and you’re planning on breastfeeding, I want to leave you with a few tips. Here we go:
1. Get lanolin. Now. Start a stockpile. My favorite brand was Lansinoh (and it still is because it makes a great lip balm!) Whatever brand you choose, get it and start using it the day you go in to the hospital to give birth. And keep using it forever and ever, amen. This will save you from chaffed, cracked, bloody nipples. If you think that’s TMI, just do what I say so that the only thing you have to do is read about it and not live through it. It’s also helpful for showers, because those can be quite painful in the beginning.
2. If you don’t like to drink water, tough it out and drink it. Try to leave the hospital with more than 1 (try for 3-4) of the awesome giant water jug/straw combos they give you. Keep at least one of them full and in the fridge, ready to go at all times. You will always be thirsty while breastfeeding, and water will become your new best friend.
3. Start looking for a wonderfully moisturizing lotion that’s about one step away from shortening. You want something that will go on thick and sink down deep to your bones.
4. Soak in every moment with your sweet, new little love. Some of my favorite memories of A consist of just the two of us sitting in the recliner after a feeding. I would sing to him and watch him drift off into a milk-drunk sleep. Those first days and weeks are long, but they are numbered and they are precious. Drink them in.
5. Last and most important – trust yourself. You can do it!
Thank you for reading our little story and thank you to Julie for letting me highjack her blog for the day!
XOXO, Ash

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  1. Courtney says

    April 22, 2015 at 7:33 pm

    Hey you! Get your booty back to regular bloggin! :p

    Totally agree on the lanolin. Whew! That stuff is an absolute necessity for sure.

Uncategorized | December 11, 2013

The Breastfeeding Diaries: Ashley from Words about Waverly

Hi everyone, I am Ashley from Words About Waverly.  I am a Fashion Marketing teacher who loves fashion, design and any type of celebration!  My husband and I live in Virginia Beach, VA , the same place we met fifteen years ago in math class.  We have a 15-month old daughter, Waverly Maye, who is the absolute light and center of our lives.

I am super excited to share my story with you and so thankful to Julie for letting me be a part of this series.  I have been following Julie’s blog for months now and  have found the stories of other moms so helpful, inspiring and best of all, reassuring.  The breastfeeding experience is so unique and really only those who have done it can really understand it.  I have come to realize that relating and learning from others during this process is so important and for me, was what helped me make it through. 

Here is our story.

I am a total Type- A, over-planner kind of person. Waverly’s nursery was complete months in advance of her July birthday, our bags were packed and hanging in the hallway for weeks in advance, and I drove around with an empty car seat for well over a month. We took an 8-week birth class and read endless books and blogs to the point that I pretty much have a medical degree in child birth. In fact, I may just forgo the whole hospital thing with my next child and do it all on my own.

Kidding.

What I didn’t prepare for, mentally or physically, was breastfeeding. I had every intention of feeding my girl exclusively. Yet for whatever reason, I never thought it would be an isssue. I just figured that that she would come out, latch right on, and we would never turn back. I was SO wrong.
Despite lots of help from lactation consultants, it took a couple of days for either one of us to even come close to figuring this whole breastfeeding thing out. The “holds” were foreign to me, the parts to that weird-looking pump were anything but easy to identify, and to put it mildly, I was in pain. Like even more than child birth pain. Pair that with the fact that I had no idea how long this whole thing took (or about engorgement!) … and there was more than one moment that I almost completely gave up. You know, in a mad dash to the grocery store for a bottle for formula for Waverly and a bottle of wine for me.

There were MANY moments of frustration when I didn’t think we would ever make it through. Just like they say, when you think you have it all figured out, things change. They did, ALL of the time! There were nights that I thought she wasn’t eating enough to find out, I was overfeeding her.  After returning to work, my supply went down and I was convinced we wouldn’t even make it to half of my goal of an entire year. We pretty much went day to day on my supply for the entire time I was back to work, and it was something I was always thinking and worrying about.  And as much as I loved the time with her, the pressure of being the only one who could feed her could definitely be overwhelming.

Long story short, the good news is that we made it through. I am so proud that Waverly Maye never drank formula and exclusively had my milk until she was 11 months old. Our breastfeeding dates went from moments I dreaded to time that I really cherished with her. There really is nothing more of a bonding experience or feeling of accomplishment than being your child’s one and only source of nourishment.

With that being said … I am fully aware that for some moms and babes, it just doesn’t work out. That may even be the case for me and a future Brickner baby. But I couldn’t be happier that this time, for me and my Waverly, it did! It’s something we will always have and I really do cherish it, and love this little girl beyond words.

On a side note, as happy as I am that our experience was a positive one, I was almost as happy to pack that god-awful pump FAR away. Really far. That is one piece of baby gear I can certainly do without.

Thanks again to Julie for the honor of allowing me to be a part of this series! 🙂

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Comments

  1. Kimberly says

    December 11, 2013 at 5:17 pm

    I know what you mean about going day to day! After not being able to nurse my daughter, I was determined to nurse my son. Every dr apt (except for the first few weeks) they told me he wasn't gaining enough and I needed to supplement. I knew he was fine, he was acting full and he wasn't LOSING weight so I kept on going. It was exhausting, but now that he's almost a year old I'm glad we made it! (with a bottle of formula every night because after MONTHS of pumping before bed for that extra bottle I just said "screw this" haha)

  2. {Jessica} says

    December 11, 2013 at 5:18 pm

    Ashley, I have been breastfeeding my son for almost 7 months now, and am day-to-day with it just like you were. I never got an opportunity to create a big freezer supply of milk, so I worry about not being able to keep up all the time. I just hope to be able to make it as long as you and Waverly did. It's awesome that you were able to go for 11 months. Way to go, Mama! Thanks for sharing your story with us!

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