There is noting quite like watching your husband become a daddy. Every time he kisses Hudson’s little cheek my heart just melts. I mention my husband a lot on this little blog, but mostly he prefers to stay behind the scenes. But he is my biggest blog supporter….often proofing posts for me and providing feedback. Lately he’s been encouraging me to think of ways to grow this blog…and during one particularly sassy moment the other day I told him that he should write a post. Well much to my surprise he did! And I think it’s fabulous.
So….let me introduce you to the best baby whisperer/swaddler/shusher/belly laugh producer around…..
With all the new and expecting moms reading Julie’s blog I thought I would share some things that might help out new Daddies! My job allows for me to have every other Friday off, which means that Hudson and I are together for the day without the mama. I have no prior baby watching experience and before Huddy I could count the number of times I held a baby on one hand. Our first day alone was scary and stressful but each time it gets easier. Here are a few things I found that help the day go smoother.
As new parents we did as much homework as we could in preparation for the arrival of our little one. We went to classes, read lots of books, and searched online. The Happiest Baby on the Block was by far the most helpful for me. All you need to know are the 5 S’s (Side, Swaddle, Swing, Suck, Shush). And trust me, IT WORKS! I like this book because there is a concrete plan to follow. Sometimes it takes a while but I have been able to successfully calm down a crying Hudson using these techniques.
Swaddling was the toughest part. I recommend you-tubing it a few times as the book images are difficult to put into practice. Before you know it you’ll become a pro. Julie still has me swaddle Hudson from time to time when he gets overly cranky.
Day one alone with the big guy was not easy. Part of the issue was warming up bottles. Julie and I had a plan in place which we thought would take about 5 minutes using hot water and bottles from the fridge but that didn’t work. It was taking me about 20-30 minutes to warm up a bottle, which felt more like hours because Hudson was hungry NOW! Now, remember I never watched a baby before that day so part of the problem was me being so nervous not to give him a bottle that was too hot or too cold. The bottle warmer takes away my worries. Pop that bottle in for 5 minutes and it is good to go. Don’t worry, I still check the temp of the milk but it has been perfect every time. Now getting a breastfed baby to take a bottle was a big challenge at first but that gets easier with time too.
The only thing harder than a healthy baby is a sick baby. We originally got one of the fancy forehead thermometers because everything we read said that was the best. The first time we thought Hudson was sick we broke out the forehead thermometer and got a different reading every time. For first time parents who were super worried about the new baby this only added to our anxiety. So, the next day we went to Target and got a under arm digital thermometer! This thing works great, temp is always consistent and it is easy to use. Plus they are less than $15 on Amazon!
My last piece of advice for new dads is to never be afraid to ask for help. The first day I made the mistake of thinking I could just do it all on my own. BIG MISTAKE! I had lots of questions but didn’t want to call Julie at work and make her worry. Now my sister, my mom, Julie’s mom, and a neighbor all know when I am home with the little dude so that I can call them if I have a question or problem. My sister will usually stop by to check in which is always appreciated. Always have a plan in place so that dad can get some help if needed.
(Thanks honey….you are the best daddy ever! P.S….leave him some comment love, won’t you? A girl could get used to this!)