This post is sponsored by Carter’s; however, all thoughts and opinions are my own.
This sweet girl. Our third (and final) baby. She was the missing piece to our family puzzle. She’s the best thing to happen to all of us…can’t you tell? I often get asked how we knew we should have another baby or how we knew we were ready for a third. And that is SO hard to answer. Because it’s such a personal decision. And it really depends on you and your family. Having three kids is busy, and crazy, and hard. But you know what? I felt just as busy and stressed with just one baby. Motherhood is hard. But wonderful.
Did you know our sweet girl was a surprise? Jon and I had been talking about whether or not we should have a third baby not two long after having Sadie (baby #2). We knew we wanted at least two kids, so the first two were easy decisions. But while we were “talking about it” we got the BIGGEST surprise of my life…and on my birthday no less!
What I thought was the stomach flu turned out to be the best birthday present ever. I think I always knew we needed a third baby. But I was just too scared to admit it.
Sadie had just turned one year old the month before we found out and I was absolutely not prepared to find out we were going to have another baby. It was a major shock! I was still breastfeeding, and adjusting to life with two kids. And overwhelmed. Honestly, I was a little scared.
But now I know better. There is nothing to fear. Our baby was such an amazing surprise. And amazing gift. I don’t know what I’d do without her.
The decision to have another baby is such a personal one….and of course I’m completely smitten with this girl…so I’m obviously a big fan of having baby #3! Ha. But seriously, let me say this. What do you want your Thanksgiving table to look like in twenty years? Close your eyes and try to picture it. Do you see a bunch of people crowded around your table? Who are they? What do you want your family to look like years from now? It’s hard to see past this hard stage of raising littles. But littles grow up fast. The trenches of motherhood are HARD. But it’s not always like this.
I always saw my Thanksgiving table as busy, loud, and full of people.
The biggest challenge about having a third baby is that you are obviously outnumbered! When we just had Hudson and Sadie, Jon could take one kid and I could take the other. But with three that totally goes out the window.
But for us, I found that going from 2 kids to 3 kids was easier than going from 1 kid to 2 kids. Does that sound crazy? My husband might disagree with me…but I found this transition to be a little bit easier. Don’t get me wrong…it’s all hard. But once you become a 3rd time parent you are way more confident in your parenting abilities. And you know that your heart will expand to love another child…because it did it with baby #2!
When Sadie was a newborn, it was hard for me to take care of her and Hudson by myself. He was a few months shy of turning three and needed me constantly. He didn’t play well by himself and just wanted me for everything. Throw in a nursing newborn and no sleep and that makes for a rough transition.
With Belle, Hudson was older and able to help me a little, but the biggest benefit is that he and Sadie can play with each other and entertain one another while I take care of Belle. The fact that they had each other to play with made things a little easier for me! Don’t get me wrong…it was (and is) crazy hard, and they don’t always get along…but it’s easier to keep them entertained with each other than when it’s just one child by themselves.
A lot of people ask about age differences, and what I think is the best timing for having another baby. Every child is different…but for me, I found that the age difference between my second and third children to be easier for me than the difference between my first and second. Like I said before, Hudson was three months shy of turning 3 when Sadie was born. I’ve found age 2 and a half – 3 and a half to be the HARDEST age. So we had a newborn right in the middle of the hardest stage ever. AKA threenager. Hudson was potty training, transitioning out of his crib and in to a big boy bed, and starting pre-school. And he was used to being the center of our attention….so learning to share me with a baby was HARD. For Sadie, she was three months shy of turning two when Belle was born. Sadie was still taking a long afternoon nap (yes!), and sleeping all night in her crib. And she was already used to having a sibling around. So all of that just made it easier to welcome Belle in to our family.
So what should you do? I will tell you this. You will never regret having another baby. But you may regret not having one. There’s always room in your heart for a little more love, right? My advice if you are trying to decide whether or not to have another baby would be to not let the fear of the unknown get in the way. This time of having little children really does go by so fast. It’s hard. And it’s busy. And it’s stressful. But it’s not like this forever. You blink and they are one year old. Another blink and they are off to school. Raising little children is hard. But they grow up before you know it.
We are all pretty smitten with our third baby.
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